Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Guest Blogger Annie Fox: We're so proud of you... now

By Annie Fox

Crazy-fearless young snow boarders defy gravity  in the half-pipe. Who knows how the hell they do it, but man, it look like a total blast. Parents in the crowd, happily freezin’ for a reason, beam up unconditional love and support to their McTwisting young ‘uns. The commentator crows “Are those proud parents or what?”

Well, yeah… your kid’s competing in the Olympics! What’s not to be proud? And by the way, looks like  he’s bringing home Vancouver gold so dust off the mantle. Talk about bragging rights, reflected glory, and a chunk of change from commercial endorsements. Not too shabby for a kid you worried wouldn’t amount to anything cause all he ever wanted was to do tricks.

It got me thinking that maybe the Flying Tomato and the other joyful but oh so focused kids on the boards weren’t always a source of parental pride. Just guessing there might have been a few heated conversations ’round the kitchen table about why the boy couldn’t think of a more ‘productive’ way to spend an afternoon.

What if the parents of  Shaun White and Louie Vito had come down heavy and managed to squelch their kids’ early passion? What if they took parental responsibility to mean “re-direct kid toward practical pursuits”? If every parent went that route I’m guessing there wouldn’t be Olympic snowboarding to thrill and inspire us landlubbers.

I’m wondering how often we parents, with all good and loving intentions, snuff out the flame of a kid’s interests because we don’t see where it could possibly lead? Just don’t see what they see.

Annie Fox, M.Ed. has been an award winning author, educator, and online adviser for parents and teens since 1997. http://anniefox.com
Read excerpts from her books: Too Stressed to Think? And the new Middle School Confidential™ series.
Download (free) her entire Teen Survival Guide to Dating & Relating, http://teensurvivalguide.com
Listen to her podcast series “Family Confidential: Secrets of Successful Parenting”   

Be the hand and voice that leads the vulnerable girl...protect her.

Sometimes it is easier to give in than to stand up and fight for what we know is right. When times are tough and the goal seems impossible to reach, it is then that we need the hand of a friend to pull us ahead and lead us with kindness in their voice. Life is tough in general and when environmental megaphones such as peer pressure, puberty, and powerful media campaigns get an anchor on our adolescent girls, they need a hand to hold and a voice to lead them out of the deep. Would you like to be that hand and voice in her life? Be there for your daughter, your granddaughter, your niece, your patient or that struggling foster child. One by one, hand in hand we can make an impact on their lives and a difference in the future or our young women. Let them know that they are not alone and teach them the road to happiness and success through self respect, communication, education and discipline. You will both have a brighter future because of this. Our adolescent girls need to be taken care of, supervised, educated, empowered and loved. Be the one to do this for her, or she will find a young man with other priorities who will be the hand and voice. Do you think his message will be similar to yours or as healthy? Because of her need for guidance and love, she may choose to give in to him and before you know it, her smile becomes a bridge of tears and her life full of chaos and fear. Talk to her, be there for her, so that she may make an educated choice that will lead her into a bright future, not one of adversity and despair. Care enough to make a difference in the life of a child. They need you. Don't abandon them. Love them. Supervise them. Educate them.

Your Pink Pixie Princess, carmenAlisa

Monday, February 1, 2010

Good Morning Everyone!

The 52nd Annual GRAMMY Awards - Show

The Grammy Show was absolutely amazing last night. I got to see all of my current favorites on one night on one stage. Lady Gaga, Pink, Lady Antebellum, The Black Eyed Peas, Taylor Swift, Drake, Lil' Wayne, and of course, Eminem. My heart is full and my creative juices flowing. I didn't agree with all of the winners, but of course I never am when it comes to the Grammys. I really enjoyed the performances and especially the mention of so many unsung old time greats.

I would like you to know that I will be announcing a contest on my blog this week. There will be awards sent by snail mail to the winners as well as lifetime memberships in my Pink Pixie Princess Pregnancy Prevention Program for adolescents and young adults. Stay tuned and think PINK!

I am looking for sponsors for the grand opening of my Pink Pixie Princess Pregnancy Prevention Program for adolescents and young adults. I am launching the program in Sacramento this month and am excited to know how many young lives I am about to touch. It is an honor and a gift to have a small part in enriching the lives and minds of our youth while encouraging Authenticity, Communication and Truth (ACT). If you are interested in sponsoring a school, a school district or even a whole city, please contact me directly (carmenalisarios@gmail.com). February and March will be spent in the Sacramento area and spots are filling up fast for the rest of Northern California during April and May. I can come to your area, too! Details to follow for how to bring the Pink Pixie Princess to the youth you love, who are to become the future of America!

Have a great day!